Posted in Notes: work related topics

Coping with work stress.

With a modern way of life work stress has become something normal. We have lots of tasks, deadlines, projects etc, and we are so caught up with all that is happening, that we do not even notice that we are stressed. Somehow we ignore the fact that sometimes we just have too much on our plate, and we are too stressed. We ignore the symptoms and believe that they will just go away, but unfortunately it is not true.

The pressure in our society is huge nowadays, we are supposed to be everything and everywhere: we need to work, study, go to gym, have family, have hobbies etc. And then, when it comes to work, the load of it and the deadlines are giving the constant pressure on us, and I notice how harsh we can be on ourselves for not being perfect, for not being able to do everything.

What to do to ease the stress:

  1. Let it go! Just let it go, it’s difficult, but once you reach the point, when you are ready to let go all of your worries, you will find peace and balance. We can’t do it all, no one can. We are all humans and no one is perfect.
  2.  Be honest with your boss. If you have too much to do at work- say it! Say it out loud to your boss, explain the situation with reasonable arguments. I do believe that if we explain everything, our boss will understand or at least try to understand, and even though he(she) might not lower the amount of work immediately, but maybe  he (she) will think if they should reconsider the resource allocation.
  3. Open up to your family/friends. They might not understated exactly your situation, but the words of support are the best cure for stress. And just acknowledging the problem will help you to cope with stress. If we keep storing all negative emotions we have from work stress inside, it will have negative consequence on our lives and health.

 

You can find an interesting article on how stress affects our health by HealthLine https://www.healthline.com/health/stress/effects-on-body#1 , so the range of diseases and symptoms we might get from stress varies from simple headaches to insomnia and risk of heart attack.

Constant stress is not a normal state of our body and mind, so if you feel stressed, do not neglect it, seek for help and find a way to reach balance in order to have a happy and healthy life.

May the force be with you!

Cheers

Daria

Posted in Notes: motivation & goals

When is it too late to change education/career path?

Spoiler: it’s never too late. One of my classmates at the university was 50 years old, and he was studying with me and I was 19 at the time. For me it was shocking, and I was wondering back then, isn’t he a bit too old for studying? From where I come from, people expect you to have your stuff figured out by 30: education, career and family. So for me it was extremely unusual to see someone older than my parents studying with me in the same degree program.

So from that time I have started to wonder, is it ever too late to change your degree or career? According to The Balance Careers (1):

…the average person changes jobs 10 to 15 times (with an average of 12 job changes) during his or her career.

Now that number includes all job changes: within same field and not. Moreover, according to Jopus, in Japan (2):

Looking at each age group, it is obvious younger employees are more likely to switch jobs. The group of 25 to 29-year-olds topped the chart at 39.6%, followed by 30 to 34-year-olds at 23.3% and 40 years old and over at 14.0%.

So even though the percentage of young professional changing their jobs is much higher than the rest, we still see those 14% for 40+ age. And this is a very good indicator of the fact that it is never too late to change your job. There are various reasons why people decide to change jobs, and those reasons sometimes depend on age. The below statistics is taken from Linkedin article (3):

It is interesting to see how “Lack of opportunities for advancement” is present in all age intervals. And even though the percentage “weight” of this reason is lowering with age increase, it is still there, which shows that we all always want to develop and improve ourselves, which is just great and gives some motivation boost!

But what about education? The trends are showing that the average student age is growing, because more and more people are willing to change their degrees or get an additional one after their 30s and 40s. Usually there is really no age limit for studying, which gives a great opportunity to start changing your life and move to a different direction.

In conlusion, no matter what age you are, if you think that it’s too late to change now, and you should just stick to what you have and achieved so far, because it would take too much time and effort to change something- don’t! Nothing comes easy, but with hard work we can achieve amazing results!

Cheers

May the force be with you!

Sources:

  1. https://www.thebalancecareers.com/how-often-do-people-change-jobs-2060467
  2. https://jopus.net/en/news/doda-average-age.html
  3. https://business.linkedin.com/talent-solutions/blog/2015/09/how-a-persons-age-affects-why-they-change-jobs
Posted in Notes: work related topics

How to get social with your colleagues if you are an introvert?

It is a real struggle to open up to your colleagues and feel comfortable around them if you are an introvert. It is extremely difficult to let someone into your world and share your thoughts with them, without thinking of what will they think of you. If you are going through the adaptation to a new team, I know your struggle.

The best thing you can do is give yourself time. Do not feel like you have to be social just for the sake of seeming to be social, no. Being “slow to warm up” is normal and there are many people like you, so the important thing you need is time. It can be weeks, can be months, but step by step you will start to include people around you at work in your comfort zone.

Another good thing you can do, is start small: try to communicate with others in a smaller group, it is much easier to get to know a person and feel comfortable around him/her if you are in a group of 2-3 people. So split the big group and start communication with people one by one, afterwards you will feel comfortable in that original big group.

Also, remember to accept people as who they are, and they will accept you. Patience and understanding are the keys to a great environment inside the team. And be open about your struggles with your colleagues. You don’t have to inform everyone about your feelings, but find a person with whom you feel most comfortable with and tell him/her about your challenges. You will feel more confident when you know, there is at least 1 person in a team who knows about the difficult adaptation process you are going through right now.

I know how difficult it is to adapt to a new work team if you are an introvert, but take your time, take it slowly, accept people as they are, and eventually it will become your comfort zone.

Cheers.

May the force be with you!