Posted in Notes: motivation & goals

How to get inspired? Part 2.

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While the Total cleaning (from the previous post) is the easiest thing you can do to clean your mind and home and get some space for new ideas, there are some more tricks to help you find the needed inspiration to start acting towards your ideas and dreams.

First of all, new season is almost here! In my area spring is coming and soon it’s gonna be so colourful and beautiful outside, but even if you are having autumn or any other season coming in your area, still, new month- new start! At least for me it is a great motivation and inspiration to start doing something, adapt some new good habits!

It is difficult to get new ideas if you are trapped in the same routine. So the best thing you can do is to get some fresh air. You can just go for a walk to a place you haven’t been before or even plan some trip within your area or abroad. Travelling allows us to get new experience and knowledge, which give us many new ideas and form some new plans. We might see some interesting business ideas, or think if we should relocate to a different city or country, or simply some interesting home design or furniture, but whatever new we see, it always makes us think and gives us some inspiration.

We are lazy creatures by nature, and our brain tries to keep us from leaving our comfort zone and once we start thinking about doing something, our brain tries to calm us down and keep us inside our routine circle. We have to force ourselves and fight our laziness if we want to get some new ideas and inspiration. Push yourself to start doing some exercise, start from something that is easy enough to do, so it wouldn’t sound too complicated and “scare you away”. I myself have started to walk from my work to home everyday, I thought: “Okay I can take a bus, but then on the other hand it is only 25 minutes walk, so it’s not so bad, I can try it!” Now it’s been few months and I walk home everyday and don’t even notice it anymore and don’t count it as an exercise, but the important thing is that I get fresh air, some time for myself and also some movement for my body! Now my plan is to start having some morning or evening routine like yoga, 10-15 mins, hopefully I can follow this plan and let’s see how it works out.

Also, start reading books. But bear in mind that I am talking about books that can bring you some value and new thoughts, not the ones that remind you of soap operas and have nothing to do with developing you and your thoughts. You can find list of “Must read books” in google, read the descriptions and choose something you think you might like and just start. You don’t have to read it if you don’t like it, but you can always try.

Finally, my last advice is – just start doing. Often inspiration comes in the process, and honestly it’s the best kind of inspiration you can get. If you have some idea, and you start moving towards it slowly, nothing feels better that realizing that you are actually able to achieve something in here. So always when I don’t feel like doing something, I just force myself, and there it is: the inspiration!

Cheers

Daria

Posted in Notes: motivation & goals

How to start acting on your ideas?

We probably have thousands of ideas going through our minds during one day. But we rarely act on any of them. Of course it is impossible to do something about each and every idea we have, but we can do something about the best ones. So let’s say we would be sitting on a couch, and suddenly thinking: “should I go for a jog?”.  According to “The 5 second rule” by Mel Robbins (1) from that moment you will have approximately 5 seconds to actually start doing something before your brain hits the brakes. You will know that happened, when your thoughts will be something like:

  • “Well the weather is actually not so good today”
  • “Well I can do it tomorrow, I am pretty tired”

But ideas without execution are pointless. And unfortunately, no matter how great idea you have, you will never feel like doing it, because it is just easier that way. So what to do?

As said, you will have about 5 seconds to do something about it, so the first thing you can do (depending on the idea), write it down! Because when you do it, you cannot pretend like you did not think of it. Or for the previous example with jogging, get up and put jogging clothes on immediately, this small action will change your thoughts from “Actually I don’t feel like doing it” to “Well I anyway dressed-up already, so I should go”. There it is! Small action=big result! Because when we have already done something about our idea, we do not want it to go to waste, so we feel like we should continue doing something about it.

Then think of motivation for your idea. You do not go jog for the sake of jogging. You want to be healthy, sportive, in a good shape etc. That is motivation, which will drive you towards actions.

Also, you can share your idea with someone, and then you will feel like you have to do it now, because you have already said you will. Anyways, saying it out loud helps a lot to force yourself towards actions.

If you are afraid that your idea will not work out and that is why you are not doing anything about it, TRY! Just try it out, maybe it does work, maybe it does not, but you will never know for sure until you try. Do not give up too early.

It is difficult to force yourself to start some action and movement, but try this exercise during next week:

  • write down your ideas when they pop up in your mind
  • do something about each one of them, something small, maybe check information from the Internet, or go to a gym this week once, or something like this
  • in the end of the week check your list and write down your reflection, how do you feel? do you feel more productive? did you get out a little bit out of your comfort zone?

Not every idea is doable, but you will never know it for sure until you try!

Cheers

May the force be with you!

Sources:

  1. https://melrobbins.com/blog/the-5-second-rule/

P.S. you can also check out Mel’s video on Ted talks, very inspirational!

 

Posted in Notes: work related topics

How to get social with your colleagues if you are an introvert?

It is a real struggle to open up to your colleagues and feel comfortable around them if you are an introvert. It is extremely difficult to let someone into your world and share your thoughts with them, without thinking of what will they think of you. If you are going through the adaptation to a new team, I know your struggle.

The best thing you can do is give yourself time. Do not feel like you have to be social just for the sake of seeming to be social, no. Being “slow to warm up” is normal and there are many people like you, so the important thing you need is time. It can be weeks, can be months, but step by step you will start to include people around you at work in your comfort zone.

Another good thing you can do, is start small: try to communicate with others in a smaller group, it is much easier to get to know a person and feel comfortable around him/her if you are in a group of 2-3 people. So split the big group and start communication with people one by one, afterwards you will feel comfortable in that original big group.

Also, remember to accept people as who they are, and they will accept you. Patience and understanding are the keys to a great environment inside the team. And be open about your struggles with your colleagues. You don’t have to inform everyone about your feelings, but find a person with whom you feel most comfortable with and tell him/her about your challenges. You will feel more confident when you know, there is at least 1 person in a team who knows about the difficult adaptation process you are going through right now.

I know how difficult it is to adapt to a new work team if you are an introvert, but take your time, take it slowly, accept people as they are, and eventually it will become your comfort zone.

Cheers.

May the force be with you!