Posted in Notes: work related topics

Coping with work stress.

With a modern way of life work stress has become something normal. We have lots of tasks, deadlines, projects etc, and we are so caught up with all that is happening, that we do not even notice that we are stressed. Somehow we ignore the fact that sometimes we just have too much on our plate, and we are too stressed. We ignore the symptoms and believe that they will just go away, but unfortunately it is not true.

The pressure in our society is huge nowadays, we are supposed to be everything and everywhere: we need to work, study, go to gym, have family, have hobbies etc. And then, when it comes to work, the load of it and the deadlines are giving the constant pressure on us, and I notice how harsh we can be on ourselves for not being perfect, for not being able to do everything.

What to do to ease the stress:

  1. Let it go! Just let it go, it’s difficult, but once you reach the point, when you are ready to let go all of your worries, you will find peace and balance. We can’t do it all, no one can. We are all humans and no one is perfect.
  2.  Be honest with your boss. If you have too much to do at work- say it! Say it out loud to your boss, explain the situation with reasonable arguments. I do believe that if we explain everything, our boss will understand or at least try to understand, and even though he(she) might not lower the amount of work immediately, but maybe  he (she) will think if they should reconsider the resource allocation.
  3. Open up to your family/friends. They might not understated exactly your situation, but the words of support are the best cure for stress. And just acknowledging the problem will help you to cope with stress. If we keep storing all negative emotions we have from work stress inside, it will have negative consequence on our lives and health.

 

You can find an interesting article on how stress affects our health by HealthLine https://www.healthline.com/health/stress/effects-on-body#1 , so the range of diseases and symptoms we might get from stress varies from simple headaches to insomnia and risk of heart attack.

Constant stress is not a normal state of our body and mind, so if you feel stressed, do not neglect it, seek for help and find a way to reach balance in order to have a happy and healthy life.

May the force be with you!

Cheers

Daria

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Posted in Notes: motivation & goals

How to get inspired? Step 1.

We all want to find inspiration and motivation. However it is extremely difficult to start changing your habits and fall out of routine. So here are some tricks on how to change you life and get space for “new projects”, and today we will start with STEP 1:

THE TOTAL CLEANING!

Okay, so we cannot really get inspired if we are surrounded by mess. Moreover, how would you get new ideas if you simply do not have space for them? So the first step that will help you get motivated and inspired is cleaning your space and mind.

  1. Working space. First things first, if you want to find inspiration, you will need to clean your working space. Get rid of all the trash, organize it so that you have nothing extra just laying around, leave the things that make you think of your goals and dreams (for example I have a card from Paris and a magnet from Italy). Furthermore, you can have pictures of people that inspire you, or maybe quotes. So just surround yourself with things that will push you forward and increase your productivity.
  2. Closet cleaning. We all have tendency to keep stuff, because we think we might need it in the future, or we just do not want to throw it away. But this way our closets get full of stuff we do not use, and probably will never use. They just collect dust and create overall feeling of mess. So start with your clothes, the good rule is: everything you haven’t worn for the past 2 years has to go, everything that does not fit you anymore has to go, everything you do not like anymore but still keep has to go and all the broken clothes should be either fixed or they also have to go. You can donate clothes if they are in good condition or if they are broken you can take them to a recycling center, but anyhow get rid of them, and you will feel so fresh and ready to embrace new things. After you get rid of all the clothes you do not use anymore, you can organize your closet however suits you best, some ideas: by season, by colors, by people ( if you are not living alone). This way your wardrobe will look nice and be easy to access the clothes you need. Then you can move onto other stuff like dishes ( do you still keep some broken cups and plates?), furniture, decorations etc. Make your home look cozy, not messy. The closet cleaning will make you feel renewed, plus you can try to sell some things you do not need and get some money, which is of course always nice.
  3. General cleaning. Now that you got rid of extra stuff, clean you home: clean windows, wipe the dust from everywhere, vacuum and wipe the floors. Take out all the trash, recycle what is possible. Clean out fridge and freezer, kitchenware like microwave, stove etc. Organize your bathroom, throw away products you do not use and which are just laying around taking the space. Wash the carpets and all the towels. Make everything sparkling clean.
  4. Clean your mind. This step is the key to get out of your routine, empty your head and embrace your thoughts. We have so much going on in our brain: so many worries and  thoughts. Sometimes we are just drowning in them and cannot get out. There is simple no space for new ideas and inspiration if our mind is burdened. Start doing regular walks, get some fresh air, meditate, do whatever helps to get rid of useless worries.
  5. Keep it that way. Now this is the most difficult part, keep your  home clean and cozy, do not make extra mess. I am personally struggling with this, as it is so difficult sometimes to keep everything clean, but it is possible and I just love the look of clean home and it inspires me so much to start doing stuff.

When you are surrounded by good and clean atmosphere, it inspires you to start doing things. So if you feel like you are drowning in your routine, start with this! Get rid of the stuff that pushes you back, clean you thoughts and start moving towards the rights direction for you.

I am planning on my total cleaning this week, what about you? 🙂

Cheers!

May the force be with us!

 

 

Posted in Notes: motivation & goals

How to start acting on your ideas?

We probably have thousands of ideas going through our minds during one day. But we rarely act on any of them. Of course it is impossible to do something about each and every idea we have, but we can do something about the best ones. So let’s say we would be sitting on a couch, and suddenly thinking: “should I go for a jog?”.  According to “The 5 second rule” by Mel Robbins (1) from that moment you will have approximately 5 seconds to actually start doing something before your brain hits the brakes. You will know that happened, when your thoughts will be something like:

  • “Well the weather is actually not so good today”
  • “Well I can do it tomorrow, I am pretty tired”

But ideas without execution are pointless. And unfortunately, no matter how great idea you have, you will never feel like doing it, because it is just easier that way. So what to do?

As said, you will have about 5 seconds to do something about it, so the first thing you can do (depending on the idea), write it down! Because when you do it, you cannot pretend like you did not think of it. Or for the previous example with jogging, get up and put jogging clothes on immediately, this small action will change your thoughts from “Actually I don’t feel like doing it” to “Well I anyway dressed-up already, so I should go”. There it is! Small action=big result! Because when we have already done something about our idea, we do not want it to go to waste, so we feel like we should continue doing something about it.

Then think of motivation for your idea. You do not go jog for the sake of jogging. You want to be healthy, sportive, in a good shape etc. That is motivation, which will drive you towards actions.

Also, you can share your idea with someone, and then you will feel like you have to do it now, because you have already said you will. Anyways, saying it out loud helps a lot to force yourself towards actions.

If you are afraid that your idea will not work out and that is why you are not doing anything about it, TRY! Just try it out, maybe it does work, maybe it does not, but you will never know for sure until you try. Do not give up too early.

It is difficult to force yourself to start some action and movement, but try this exercise during next week:

  • write down your ideas when they pop up in your mind
  • do something about each one of them, something small, maybe check information from the Internet, or go to a gym this week once, or something like this
  • in the end of the week check your list and write down your reflection, how do you feel? do you feel more productive? did you get out a little bit out of your comfort zone?

Not every idea is doable, but you will never know it for sure until you try!

Cheers

May the force be with you!

Sources:

  1. https://melrobbins.com/blog/the-5-second-rule/

P.S. you can also check out Mel’s video on Ted talks, very inspirational!